How do I find Happiness

HappinessEvery year before my birthday I go over the past years of my life re-evaluating it, and  comparing it to the goals in which I’ve set for myself.  Basically, my goals are things that  I want to accomplish by the end of the year.  In re-evaluating my life, the goals that I have set for myself are usually smaller steps that need to be taken in order to reach my main goal.  For an example the wife and I want to buy a house, however, neither one of us are sure whether we want a house in IL, WI or in a warmer state.  My choice is a warmer state (all year-long), and I  would like to be in that house by January 2018 (which means beginning the search sometime in 2017). Being able to fulfill that goal will make us very happy.  And that’s not to say that I am not happy or thankful for what we have now, because I am.

I  feel very blessed to have found a woman who not only understands me, but has been my best friend, lover and  partner for the last 6 years (of which we’ve been married for 4 of those years) :).  And I have a great son who is thirty-two years old and doing very well for himself, and of whom I’m very proud of.  What more can one ask for, right?

Well, as you can see my thoughts are on the future because I feel that as we get older that the things in life that we once were happy with, no longer fulfills our desires.  Which is a good thing, because this is proof that we are growing, and along with that growth comes different desires and tastes.   Along with those new desires, and tastes, comes the mini steps that must be taken to fulfill those goals. In other words, the big picture for me is the house, the mini steps would be to set aside a set amount of money each month (of which one would have to designate the amount per month) in order to have the desire amount for a down payment. And let’s not forget in designating a specific amount to tuck away into savings one may have to work longer hours, and both people of the household need to work.  Again mini-steps towards the big picture. Now that I know what’s involved in accomplishing that goal, the re-evaluating portion comes with a question, “Will having a house by my 55th birthday truly make me happy?  Or should we be saving to travel the world instead?

Normally, I’m not such a deep thinker, as I said earlier, the deep thinking comes only once a year which I have fondly named, “The Re-evaluation of Lois’ Life!) :).

In giving you a brief description of myself–I’m one of those people who does not believe on dwelling on the past, for there is nothing I can do about it, what’s done is done.  Sure there are some things that I’ve done in the past that I regret, but who doesn’t? There were also some things I’ve done that if I could have a do over of my life, I would do differently or sooner.  But for the most part, I believe that my past, good or bad choices have made me the woman who I am today.  And quite frankly, I like the person I am today!

I am a go-getter and I believe that in order to accomplish things in life that one should have a plan and work their way towards achieving their goals.  I also believe it is essential to grow, as the things around us in everyday life grows daily and constantly.

Now that I am no longer in school I find myself doing a lot of reading, not just books, but the newspaper, magazines and topics listed on social media.  Just last night  I came across a snippet from the Steve Harvey show, where his guest Anthony Smith, talked about five things people should do to make themselves happy.  I listened with great interest not because I am unhappy, but because I feel that it is equally important to maintain happiness within oneself.

According to Anthony Smith there are 5 Simple Steps to Happiness, they are as follows:

1. Own Your Own Happiness.

2.  Challenge Your Own Story.

3.  Enjoy The Journey, Enjoy the Steps to Get To Your Goal.

4.  Make Relationship Count.  Enjoy Relationship with Yourself.

5.  Balance Work With Play.
In listening to Mr. Smith, I was actually shaking my head up and down in agreeance with each of his steps along with the explanations he offered, because they all  made perfect sense.  For your convenience I’ve included the URL, so you can listen to each explanation of the above steps.
That’s all for now. Thanks so much for lending me your ear!
Until next time, LP

 

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